Divorce.... a failure or a success?

So back to some personal writings here, very personal.

I dont know if it is the time of the year, beginning of the new year or what, but a lot of things are going around out there in many families. In my "neighborhoud" things are happening, that is for sure.

Christimas and holidays reminds about the sad situation in families with bad relations, but also strengthen some others.

One of my very good friend will soon be divorced at the end of January and I know what this mean in many ways. A year filled with challenges due to the fact of selfish and x partner jealousy of the situation to be able to choose happiness and go on. No support to each other at all. The driver of the divorce, has become a new person and is as happy as ever. I have never heard a person talk about happiness in such words after a divorce.... more then myself. His x-partner is probably even more unhappy due to the bad giving and non giving. On top of the cream he met the woman of his life quiet early after splitting and they are in heaven for their new life and all their children together, and as an extra bonus.. they got a lovely little son in December. I just go crazy happy for them.

A great girl here in town, has finally after 13 years of consideration..puuh..... ( oldest child is 18) moved away from a man that did not bring any happiness at all into their relationsship, and neither did she. She did not dare to tell her boys about it so she let it go... I can tell .. the boys today are chocked and more sad about that they have stayed together then the divorce itself. I am happy for her. I know she will start living now.

Another friend is in such a shitty relationsship that it is not worth to call a relationsship. It just proves that some man are really big assholes. But is it more simple to split it up with an asshole? Well.. depends who you ask. To stand aside and guide is very easy... to be in the middle of the hurricane eye.. you just try to survive. I will be her publisher for releasing a book.. i promise it will be a bestseller.

To divorce and separate is not very simple in one way, on the other it is. Its about people and a life and you have to make your choices. You can never cover up any situation as sadness or any other reactions to yourself or your children. The logic parts must not be the guiding ones, it is the living life thoughts of the future.

I promised myself that I will always look back at the good part of the marriage I had and make those to great memories for my children, that does not cost me anything, it gives me strenthen to show that what the past lovely time gave us. I also promised to tell my children to be sure that I will always will do my best to fix the situation and everything for them, and I feel great about that mindset and ambition.

Its not a perfect world we are living in, and no-one is perfect. To show your children that you choose happiness and a good future for them will guide them to believe in something good.
Consider it will be even better then before... that is a huge thought?

So, it depends on how you see it. It is ok to fail if we choose to call a divorce a failure and it is also ok to make your failure to your best future and success.

Its about the choices again.

I choose love and happiness and go for celebrating both failures and succesess in life. And honestly.. i dare to believe in love, heavy and faithful undconditionally even after divorce. I just do.

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